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The Last….action….

Just finished watching the movie, “The Last Kiss”, with Zach Braff.

In the movie, Zach’s character, afraid and immature, makes a mistake and then apologizes to his girlfriend and to her dad. He says he’s sorry, and reassures them that he loves her. The dad looks him in the eye and says the best line of the movie that truly hits home:

“Stop talking about love. Every asshole in the world says he loves somebody. It means nothing. It still doesn’t mean anything. What you feel only matters to you. It’s what you do to the people you say you love, that’s what matters. It’s the only thing that counts.”

Actions!! Actions will always speak louder than words.

There is so much truth behind the line “What you feel only matters to you.” Think about it. What really counts is how we behave in the world, and sadly sometimes our actions do not measure up to our words. They can be out of sync. Our feelings or beliefs don’t make us better people, they don’t truly define who we are. Our actions and behavior do! I wish we could stop caring so much about what others believe; I wish we could stop trying to follow others in their beliefs; I wish more people who could just focus more on how to act accordingly in the every day moments. And understand that every action has a reaction.

Great music soundtrack. I love the group Coldplay and this song just resonates with me today….

When The Truth Is, I Miss You
Yeah The Truth Is, That I Miss You So
And I’m Tired I Should Not Have Let You Go ♥


T needs to toughen up!

Ever feel like a failure at work, at life in general?   *sigh*  This second, this past week and weekend, already spilling into this new week – sadly this is how I feel.  I had to work late each day last week all through the weekend, and I was not able to be as successfully productive and effective as I would have liked.

I am in the midst of yet an equally busy week. But I am so exhausted.  Being sickly, trying to work a full-time job is so much harder than I ever imagined.  But I am hopeful…I will keep trying to rise in life and at work even when I feel like a failure.

In the fall of 2001, when life knocked me down to my knees and I lost everything – I was so lost, I felt like a complete failure. What I learned was that by making a decision to rise above any and all circumstances, backed with the strongest inner vision of true heartfelt purpose, one day at a time, one moment at a time, I continue to be able to transform my entire life.

Overcoming adversity is something I no longer feel like a complete failure at – I just have to somehow apply this to my everyday life.  I am still learning that….no experience is a failure.  I am not a failure simply because I have yet to achieve all that I desire.  Experience is definitely a good teacher – as long  as I am open to change.  I believe that the fateful twists of life amid our tragedies are what bring us our greatest strength and wisdom.  Trying not to judge myself as a failure simply because I have not yet succeeded at so many things.  I believe my time has come…I am deserving to have all of my desires and joys manifested.   With resolve, understanding, faith and decisiveness, I am slowly creating the life I want and desire.  I just need to STOP buying into the false belief that I am “less than” any other person.  Working on not comparing myself to no one; but to gain inspiration from the few who have shared their pain and have overcome their own darkest hours.  I am learning that the only difference between them and me is a stable support system, and an inner resolve, a decision backed with sheer will, vision, determination, and consistency.

“Winners never quit and quitters never win”….It’s an old saying that I’m sure you’ve heard many times before.  But just how much truth is behind those words?  When and how do you know if it’s the right choice to cut and run and throw in the towel?

You are never ever going to follow every single path you begin to it’s end destination.  You change. Your life changes. Your goals constantly change.   Every step that you take, causes you to grow and stretch beyond your current boundaries. Sometimes those changes will almost predetermine your need to give in and throw in that towel in certain areas.

It’s not a failure to give in.  It’s a courageous act, too often unrecognized.

Decisions are tough, and the bigger attachment you have to the outcome the tougher they can be. Be honest in your assessment.  You can play head-games forever and  justify your argument no matter which side of the coin you’re backing.  I need to believe that we all  struggle with throwing in the towel, second guessing ourselves becomes part of our nature.

On my journey….learning to toughen up!!!  ♥


Handling reality…

Everything is great for a couple of days, even weeks, then all of sudden it’s like smiling, humming along, chewing sweet, tasty gum, only to accidentally realize you bit down into a piece of tinfoil.  Yuck!  *sigh*


A promise is a cloud; fulfillment is rain…

Here is an undeniable truth about life – actions do speak louder than words!  I know, you’ve heard this all before.  Those of you that know me have heard me use this phrase time and again. I daresay that I might even overuse it.  But the truth is, you can, and must, decide how a person is by their actions and not by their words!

Words are cheap.  Actions mean everything!  The truth is always there for all to see when you observe the way people act and respond, rarely by what they say.  This truth is self-evident – good people practice what they preach.  You can tell a lot about a person by their actions.  How do they respond to you?  How do they treat you?  Real, sincere people say what they mean and act the same way.  Real people, good people, decent people, will always demonstrate who they are by their consistent actions.  Consistent actions on their part will tell you what you need to know, for good or for bad.

So the new me will only focus on what people DO instead of what they SAY – Actions Speak Louder Than Words!

I have thought a lot over the past couple of weeks why people do the things they do in their lives. What motivates people to say one thing and then do another?!  I am trying really hard not to put myself into the situation of being disappointed when it is in some people’s character to disappoint me and countless others.  I can’t stop looking for the good in everybody – that is, of course, until they again prove themselves to be false. Then I say to myself, “Why do I follow their words? If I follow their actions, then I’ll be a lot better off.”  So be it… I like to believe that most people in my life don’t set out to lie or deceive for the most part. In fact, I think that most of the world is still full of good people who generally try to get by in life without hurting others. Having said that, at the end of the day, people still do what is best for them first…regardless of what they have said to you in the past.   Makes me sad…but with each passing day, I am more accepting, and less gullible, less hurt.

Why does this happen over and over? Why do people often tell you what you want to hear and then do something other than what they expressed to you? I think I finally know some of the answers:  It’s because they are scared. Fear causes people to act differently than they normally would.  So does jealousy.  So does immaturity.

Think about it; if you were truly unafraid of the ramifications of not doing what appears to be in your personal best interest, would you be willing to stay the course and keep your original plan and commitments in place? I say yes, you would, because you wouldn’t have anything to lose. So if you’re unafraid, why not stick to what you said you were going to do?!

It seems that so many people are unfortunately completely unaware of the basic concept of action and reaction. People seem to think that if our actions do not have an immediate effect, we need not worry or even think twice about the action we took or are about to take.  The reality is, every action, no matter how small, has an effect. The effect may not be immediate, but it is inevitable. A consequence that is lingering from a past action can be much worse than any immediate consequence.  Whether it is physical or not, it will eventually take full effect, and the build-up will be catastrophic if you are unaware.

Embrace and fully apply Newton’s laws of motion …I am working hard on accepting this inevitability.  The sooner I can adopt this way of life, the easier it will be for me to make the transition…my journey….never ending…   ♥

Do your actions speak louder than words?   Do you realize that your actions, or lack thereof , cause a ripple, reaction?  Just asking…

Trust only movement.  Life happens at the level of events, not of words.  Trust movement.  ~A. Adler ♥


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