One of my all time favorite TV shows is Criminal Minds. I finally had the time to watch this weeks episode this morning. Thank goodness for DVR.
One of the things I love about this show is that they always share a quote that is apropos and I always love how it resonates with our lives. And gives us a chance to truly contemplate on certain things.
My favorite character is Dr. Spencer Reid – LOVE HIM! Okay, I even like the actor who plays him – Matthew Gray Gubler.
Quotes from this week’s episode, made me really think about life chances, changes and the many theories used to explain events in our lives.
Morgan: “It is in your moments of decision that your destiny is shaped.” ~ Tony Robbins.
Rossi: “The world is so unpredictable. Things happen suddenly, unexpectedly. We want to feel we’re in control of our own existence. In some ways we are, in some ways we’re not. We are ruled by the forces of chance and coincidence.” ~ Paul Auster.
Reid: “Maybe the events in our lives were set in motion a long time ago. There’s an old Buddhist saying that, when you meet your soulmate, remember that the act to bring you together was 500 years in the making. So, always appreciate and be kind to each other.
So many times, life plays out like a domino effect, and we rationally think all has a cause and an effect. How many times does something unexpected happen in our lives, a coincidence so incredible and we are stunned, thinking, “Wow, that was weird – oh it must just be a coincidence.” We can’t always rationalize things. Ah is it chance, luck … synchronicity?
And when it can’t be explained away by rationale – is it now synchronicity? Carl Jung took a leap of faith to explain his theory: Synchronicity is the coming together of inner and outer events in a way that cannot be explained by cause and effect and that is meaningful to the observer.
We all want to believe we are in constant control of our lives, but are we really? I have learned to accept that much of what happens in most people’s lives is beyond their control. We can plan, plan, plan … yet one single, random act, can start a whole other series of events … dominoes. I am proof that one person, thing, detail, event can and will change everything. Ripples.
Your most carefully planned life plan can be ruined … or enhanced by a single chance moment. We tend to believe that our decisions are based on preparation and well thought out logic; but no matter how smart and thorough we are, sometimes it’s not enough.
There are events in life that shake up our world, throws us into chaos, survival mode, or if lucky, into some of happiest moments. We are at our most vulnerable. Joyful news of a baby, sad news of a death, fun news of a celebration, a promotion, a new, exciting romance, marriage, divorce … so many events that can cause us to rethink our lives. We become more introspective, become more aware, grow as humans. Change can challenge us and disrupt our lives. If we learn to accept, appreciate these changes, we can move forward in our lives … with grace in our steps, hope in our hearts. I do.