Category Archives: Altruism

Down but not over….

Wow!  What a few days it has been.  I still cry when I see acts of random kindness across the state.  I am totally in favor of volunteering, etc.,  and when I see people coming together and trying to help each other in any way, it definitely makes me warm and happy.  I am definitely proud that I live in a state and in a community that strives to support each other in the wake of Hurricane Sandy.

My parents and I were among the few on our block that had power this week.  We opened our home to family and had a sleep over – it was fun and heartwarming.   My neighbor decided to grill and gave away free food.   Prior to the storm hitting us Monday night, I made sure I checked in on the elderly neighbors ensuring they had some non-perishable food, candles.   Today we spent the day collecting clothes, any donations and busy making copies of photos for those who were not so fortunate.  I know a few of my high school friends who had homes down the shore, lost too much.

“We cannot permit that sorrow to replace the resilience that I know all New Jerseyans have” Governor Christie – so true!

I am sure I will continue to see good people make the biggest difference in other’s lives in small, random ways.  “I learned how to give not because I have many – but because I know exactly how it feels to have nothing…”

Always Jersey strong…♥


Being Altruistic…”Keeping Hope Alive” (MLK)…♥

What a day!  What a weekend!  Many may view my life as pretty sad – trust me I have called my life that myself many more times than I care to admit.  But as down as I am, I try to remember that there are many others worse off than me.  I usually find that giving back in some small way is good for the soul.  I don’t have much but my heart is full and I am forever grateful.

I find that being altruistic, and reaching out to help others, not only benefits the person being helped, but practicing altruism also has many benefits for the person doing the helping.  Trust me I am proof.  I try to help others because I truly believe that reaching out in some small way is one of the greatest gifts of the heart.  I sometimes wish I had all the answers though and a crystal ball.

I have been doing some type of volunteer work for the past 15+ years; and it never fails to make me FEEL!  Sometimes I feel happy, relieved, worthy, determined, purposeful…but other times I have felt heartbroken.  Saturday was a good day.  Raised money, was able to help provide close to 200 elementary school aged children get school supplies.  But this evening was a different day.  Children in distress – emotional abuse, broken homes, anger residing.  I grew up in Newark, NJ but was luckily sheltered to the real ugliness that permeates the city.

I met a little 10 year old today that was using his fists and hitting a brick wall when I asked what he was doing and if he was okay, he answered “No!  I have to hit, I am angry”.   He didn’t want to go home. I took him for a walk, we chatted as he drank two bottles of water.  Sounds so simple but it was hard – all I wanted to do was hug him and take him home.  I found myself many times tonight at a loss for words.  So I listened. And prayed.  And will continue to do so…

So I cry and I pray that my tears help someone else….more in need than me.  ♥

Some of my favorite quotes that remind me what living is all about…

“You will find, as you look back on your life, that the moments that stand out are the moments when you have done things for others.” – Henry Drummond

“Down in their hearts, wise men know this truth: the only way to help yourself  is to help others.” – Elbert Hubbard

“Charity and personal force are the only investments worth anything.” – Walt Whitman

“It is one of the most beautiful compensations of life that no person can sincerely try to help another without helping themselves.” – Ralph Waldo Emerson

“To laugh often and much, to win the respect of intelligent people and the affection of children, to earn the appreciation of honest critics and endure the betrayal of false friends, to appreciate beauty, to find the best in others, to leave the world a bit better, whether by a healthy child, a garden patch, or a redeemed social condition, to know even one life has breathed easier because
you have lived, THIS is to have succeeded.”
 – Ralph Waldo Emerson

“Make it a rule…never to lie down at night without being able to say, “I have made one human being at least a little wiser, a little happier or a little better this day.” – Charles Kingsley


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