Happy Holidays, Everyone! I hope you have all been enjoying the holiday season and its many celebrations. I have been blessed with love, warmth, meals, and friends, and yes – some truly wonderful gifts…♥
The past year for me has been a journey of discovery and re-direction in many ways. It has been a time of quiet reflection, a time to gather my memories of my pasts, and learn how to accept love into my life again. Aside from some grief and feeling of loss it has brought serious contemplation of the importance of friends, family, the necessity of unassailable caring for one another and the need to resolve differences and reach a level of unimpeachable understanding between us all. And it hasn’t and still isn’t always easy to accomplish. I have been fortunate though – so many times this past year, I have felt at peace, sense of quiet faith that all will be well in the future.
These last few days of the year will be all abuzz with chatter of the past year’s best of, hottest this, latest that. And even more than that, everybody will most likely vow a commitment to some act of self-improvement for the upcoming year. Ah – the infamous New Year’s Resolution. Good intentions, that most often fall by the wayside only to be regarded as lists of would’ve, could’ve, should’ve.
Want to know why I don’t believe in New Year’s Resolutions?! I have said this many times – they are an excuse to take the bad parts of your life and flaunt them with the promise that you’ll change them; they’re an excuse to realize you have messed up and are going to change without being ashamed. But there is no shame in wanting to change. We are constantly changing, whether we know it or not. Take a year and live it one day at a time; you’d be surprised how much can change on its own when you’re not making dreamy long-term goals. That is how I have lived my life…and now here I am and I don’t know how to accept people who don’t.
At this time of year, we naturally think back over the past twelve months and look ahead towards the future. Looking back at times gone by (Auld Lang Syne) can be a good thing, especially if we focus on the stuff we’ve accomplished and the adventures we’ve had with friends or family. I think reflecting on our accomplishments and giving thanks for our good fortune is healthy. But what about looking forward?
So I wonder how many of us will make New Year’s resolutions: Lose weight. Sleep enough hours. Hit the gym. Cut out the fast food. Quit smoking. Drink less.
If you’re looking for a new way to approach your outlook on the New Year, try this instead. Take a moment for some silent self-reflection on the past year and use where you are today to get where you want to be tomorrow. While I’m not one for New Year’s Resolutions, I am committed to setting goals.
This coming January, concludes my first year writing this blog. What a journey it has been. I want to thank all of my followers for taking time out to read some of my musings. This has been a very disparate year for me – looking for love, fighting demons of insecurities, loss, dealing with cancer, re-connecting with family and friends, looking for work, joining support group, volunteer work…the year is ending on a very positive note for me…finding a great man and steady work have been true blessings.
How about you? Are you setting
resolutions goals for the new calendar year?