“I am serious, so I laugh a lot. You need to laugh. You don’t laugh enough. I don’t trust anyone who doesn’t laugh”. –Maya Angelou
“I don’t believe in being serious about anything. I think life is too serious to be taken seriously.” –Ray Bradbury
I find it interesting that most people in my life either describe me as ‘silly’ or ‘serious’…nothing really in between. But lately many people have been telling me I am too serious…some of these people also ‘accuse’ me of wanting too much; they say, I don’t know how to take a joke. I have to disagree. I think these people just don’t know me…which is all good.
If people say something bad about you, judge you as if they know you, don’t easily get affected. Remember this: dogs bark if they don’t know the person. This is my favorite saying of the week!
Sure I admit that I am very serious most of the time but not too serious, because seriousness has always been very natural to me. Growing up, I was a loner, buried my head in a book, escaped in the words, travelled to places described. I am a dreamer; but life has me firmly grounded in reality. And unfortunately, that reality has seen its share of heartache. I believe this serious side of me is because of my desire to always improve myself and my dislike of imperfections. As a result, I am hyper-critical of myself, everything I do, and even the world around me. See to me – this may explain why many believe that I am too serious.
But I try to lighten up…I have my moments…I know how to suspend my reality hours at a time. I think that is why I tend to gravitate toward people who have a healthy sense of humor. They know how to laugh things off, shrug their shoulders, dust off their pants, and just keep smiling.
In my not so distant past, I have learned there are so many problems with being too serious leading to many sleepless nights:
The silent killer = Stress: Always being sick and always feeling responsible has for the most part been overwhelming.
Worry: Being serious leads to worrying a lot. I tend to worry all of time. Even insignificant issues become worrisome to someone who is too serious. Major issues become even more worrisome than they should be.
Anxiety: People who are too serious tend to have great anticipation or fears that preoccupy their thoughts. Social anxiety is the biggest hurdle for me these days.
Depression: When serious people concentrate mostly on serious issues that are mostly out of their control, they tend to become more depressed. Lucky for me, I don’t hibernate as long as I used to in the past. I am more aware of all these issues which greatly helps my mood.
Boredom: Serious individuals tend to become more bored with mundane tasks. They prefer to work on more important tasks and solve problems instead.
Interactions: Being too serious can negatively affect interactions with other people, thus resulting with poor social skills and fewer friends.
As a result, being too serious most of the time can have detrimental effects to a person’s happiness, health, and social life. Yes! I have been proof of this. Changing for the better…finally!
Fortunately, there is a simple and easy suggestion to help anyone become less serious. Just set aside some time each day when no important tasks need to be or will be done. For me, this takes place every day now! J This will be the down time to just relax. Do not do anything that’s stressful – I don’t watch the news, I don’t talk to selfish people, I don’t listen to love songs; I try to stay away from all that aggravate me. Instead, I watch funny movies, read a good book, take the dog for a walk, write in my blog, allow attention from admirers, chat with my new funny friends…best of all check in with my Goddaughter – she is the brightest spot in this murky life. She is so full of hope, love, and promises yet wise before her years. I just pray she allows herself to be silly and doesn’t let the serious side of life take over. She has already learned the most important thing in life: Common sense and a sense of humor are the same thing, moving at different speeds. A sense of humor is just common sense, dancing.
A sense of humor… is needed armor. Joy in one’s heart and some laughter on one’s lips is a sign that the person down deep has a pretty good grasp of life….I am finally almost there.
I strongly believe: “The deeper that sorrow carves into your being the more joy you can contain”. –Kahlil Gibran
Let’s all try to remember that: “Comedy is simply a funny way of being serious”. –Peter Ustinov
Always looking for balance…♥